FertilityCare Practitioner, Wife, and Homeschooling Mother
Over the last year or two I have been feeling especially close to St. Perpetua and have used her as a model in my own vocation as a wife and a mother. Not a lot is known about this woman who was martyred in the Roman Colosseum during the time of Christian persecution, but there is a record of the passion of Sts. Perpetua and Felicity. This is the quote that has echoed in my head recently…
“Next, looking for a pin, she likewise pinned up her dishevelled hair; for it was not meet that a martyr should suffer with hair dishevelled, lest she should seem to grieve in her glory.”
Now, I’m not being mauled by wild beasts exactly, but there is a certain level of ‘martyrdom’ and death to self we certainly enter into as wives and mothers…. and the occasional beastly child I suppose. I was so inspired by this woman who was facing certain death, that she still did not want to appear to be suffering in the midst of her suffering. And at this time in my life I had fallen hard into the ‘momiform’ of messy bun and leggings every day. And it was very obvious from my outer appearance that I was indulging in my suffering by pitying myself. Believing that I was so in over my head I couldn’t even put a brush through my hair- let alone pin it up! As I prayed with this I realized I wasn’t really giving glory to God in my vocation by doing this. I wasn’t honoring the gift of femininity that He gave me, I wasn’t honoring my husband, and I wasn’t being a witness of this vocation to others. And so, I put out of my mind the lie that making myself look nice was vanity and embraced the fact that getting dressed and ready every day was the lesser sin in this season of life. And I must say, a little hair pin here and a quick swipe of lipstick there has brought more fruit out of my vocation than I ever imagined it could.